Anxiety & Depression

sadladyLife is very difficult nowadays with trying to bring up a family, working to make ends meet, to pay the mortgage or rent, put food on the table and pay bills. The general stresses of coping with everyday life is more hectic than ever before.

There seems to be this underlying negative energy surrounding us from outside influences of ongoing terrorists threat and the displacement of many millions of refugees; the unsettled world of finance and our economy; the safety and the future outlook for our children seems to be a universal struggle.

Our relationships with our husband, wife or partner is constantly evolving and we have to put in more time and energy to keep things working. The ups and downs of living together or apart, getting married, separation and divorce can put a strain on all our relationships and our ability to function under pressure can soon become over whelming.

Sadness   Unhappy   Despondent   Major life crisis   Bereavement   Divorce    Separation    Miscarriage   Retirement    Poor Concentration   Emptiness    Despair   Loss of Appetite   Insomnia   No Self Esteem   Confusion   Irritability   Lack of Motivation   Reclusive   Suicidal    Lack of Confidence   Crying   Loneliness

Children bring us the joy and laughter in our life.  From the minute they are born we want to protect and nurture them to give them the best start in life with nutritional food so that they grow up healthy and strong. Teaching them the values of life to grow up to be independent and happy young adults. But it is not all plain sailing  especially when they start growing up and become teenagers!  These years can be particularly troubling for all concerned.  We want to protect our children from bullying in the playground and now cyber-bullying  reaches us in our homes where children are meant to feel safe and secure.  Social Media has taken over the outside influences that we used to have control overdepression but we are in a new era that can cause many sleepless nights!

It is no wonder we feel stressed, burdened, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed and feel we are lacking in confidence or low self esteem and no motivation to do anything.  It is very difficult to be happy all the time when our home and work life is not running like a text book or we are worried about someone in the family. All stress takes its toll on our patience, health especially allergies, motivation and ability to function properly. We want to protect and put everyone else’s needs first and eventually this can be too much.

Depression & Anxiety

Depression is the only illness that really is hidden. To everyone around you they see that you are fine and when you smile they do not see the anguish or the pain. You can be in a room full of people but be the loneliest person in the world.  The slightest thing can make you doubt your decisions and your self worth and confidence have disappeared and you feel so low that you cry all the time at the slightest thing. You feel unhappy and your relationships are strained with your family or at work, yet you find it hard to talk to anyone and just want to be a recluse. Holding everything in is not the answer and there comes a time when you really need to seek professional help, just talking to someone can really help and make all the difference. Your doctor can put you in the right direction.

Childbirth, parenting, relationships, bereavement, financial issues, health problems, medication and stress make us very susceptible to anxiety and  depression.  In particular allergies are directly linked with long term depression. All of these can make you feel trapped with no way out or to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Struggling with everyday activities becomes too much and can take a hold of you and become difficult to find a way out of the big black hole.teenagedepression

Teenagers are particularly vulnerable during these years and many withdraw and battle with their parents. Outside influences such as social media, friends, recreational drugs, alcohol and schooling can cause many problems. Teenagers can succumb to drugs and alcohol and their behaviour can become erratic and sometimes be out of control and violent.  Many teenagers cannot cope and instead of talking and communicating they retreat and find other ways to exist.  As a parent you can feel helpless in not understanding what is going on and everyone in the family can be suffering and affected and all will need help to survive this worrying time.

Women and men as adults can become very anxious and suffer with depression due to the amount of stress that they have in their lives.    Buying a house and meeting the mortgage payments can be difficult and cause pressure within the family and financial stress does not make life easy for all concerned. Relationships can become strained especially when a parent has to give up work to have a baby and more pressure is put on the other parent.

Women outnumber men by 2 to 1 from suffering with depression and women are more likely to suffer mental and physical abuse from their partner.  Parents being abused by their teenage son or daughter have increased so much in the last five years that the government and police are looking at changing laws to cope with this  demand.

Separation and Divorce is the number one cause of the start of depression not only for the parents concerned but also for the children as well.  Children get caught up in the crossfire and it is important to try and not talk in front of your children about the other parent and also not to include them in any details that can be detrimental. This is a very tender time for all concerned and everyone can feel over whelmed and not loved!

elderlydepressionThe new retirees and the elderly can easily slip into depression. They  have been used to working and providing for their  family and all of a sudden they become isolated and depressed.  When a serious illness is diagnosed or they loose their partner this can have a devastating affect and can make them deteriorate quickly.

Nutritional Diet & Exercise

This is perhaps the most important time to eat a well balanced diet but when you are depressed the first thing that is neglected is your body. Depression plays havoc with your thyroid and hormones and this is the time that you should take extra nutritional supplements like Vitamin B Complex, Vitamin C and a mixed mineral combination containing Calcium, Copper, Iron, Magnesium and Potassium. In the winter Vitamin D from sunlight may be needed as some people suffer with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

Eating plenty of whole grains and pulses and regular amounts of red meat, oily fish, chicken and eggs. A higher intake of fruit and vegetables is also needed such as asparagus, broccoli, melon, oranges and all the berries.

People suffering from depression should also cut down on alcohol, tea and coffee.

Exercise is a great motivator – joining a gym for yoga, pilates and Tai Chi all will help you relax and focus to regain a balance in your life.  If financial issues are your main worry then go for a walk, its cheap and you are out in the fresh air.  If you live by the beach take advantage of walking along the beach as this will completely cheer you up and clear your mind.

Medication

Oral contraception and other medication like pain killers, tranquillisers and antidepressants upset the body’s natural chemicals also causing depression. The natural way to help depression if you feel reluctant to take a medical prescription from your doctor is to eat a well balanced diet and talk to a professional psychologist.

robinwilliamsThe trouble with depression is that it exists and most of the time is hidden, its there all the time and affects any age. More young children and teenagers are reportedly being treated for anxiety and depression more than ever.  Finding it difficult to cope with bullying, school and home life and the influences of drugs and alcohol.

Please do not suffer in silence and see your doctor who can arrange a Mental Health Care plan for a referral to see a Psychologist or Counsellor or other appropriate professional. With most people this can be free and the government can give you up to 6 sessions with a practitioner.  Please get help and make use of it.

If you would like more information go to these websites or if you prefer to speak to someone immediately or you feel at risk you can contact the following:

Kids Helpline 1800 551 800

Headspace for Teenagers & Parents at https://www.headspace.org.au/

Beyondblue for Help  1300 22 4636       

Lifeline for Help  13 11 14  

Aged Care contact  www.myagedcare.gov.au/ 

Centacare for Abuse & Domestic Violence at www.centacare.net.au

Debt Helpline 1800 007 007

Centrelink 132 300 also offer financial advice

 

Natural Remedies To Help

    • Aromatherapy – Neroli, Bergamot, Chamomile, Clary Sage, Jasmine, Geranium, Lavender, Melissa, Rose, Sandalwood and Ylang Ylang  are all antidepressants.  Use a few drops onto the skin or put on your clothes and underneath your pillow at night to help you sleep. You can also put into your bath or put in a vapourizer.
    • Flower Essences – Emergency Essence is always good to keep handy and take when necessary. This is ideal for all ages and can be administered orally or put on the wrist or temple pulses.
    • Nutritional Supplements – Take extra Vitamin B6, B12, Folic Acid and Vitamin C and D. Depressed people have been found to be low in Serotonin so the Amino Acid Tryptophan may be also helpful. The minerals Calcium and Magnesium will also be helpful.  Oats and oatmeal are vital for a healthy nervous system.
    • Herbs – St John’s Wort and Siberian Ginsing.
    • Foods to eat – Foods rich in B vitamins, whole grains and pulses
    • Foods to avoid – Raw cabbage, turnips, swedes, peanuts, mustard, brussel sprouts and cauliflower as these inhibit iodine absorption.
    • Cut down on smoking, alcohol and caffeine intake (sorry)
    • Last but not least be around people that help you stay positive and love you just the way you are!